Dude, We're Getting So Old

That's all I can think of when I look at the pictures from our 10 year anniversary trip. I don't FEEL that old, so why do I look like I'm almost FORTY??? I would have liked to have spent our 10 year anniversary getting botox, but since it is OUR anniversary and not MY anniversary, we decided to do something that we'd both love and remember forever. So we did.

Have I mentioned that our marriage lasting this long is something of a miracle to us? It's true. Here are just a few of the many reasons:

1) Statistics alone are against us. Coming into this, each having our own child, each not out of the previous relationship all that long, the odds weren't good.

2) The Family And Friends Betting Pool on how long we would last, whether we'd even make it to the wedding date, and if so, how long after, was not a good sign.

3) The reason for #2 being formed, which was my tendancy to get engaged and then call it off.

4) His sleeziness.

5) My judginess.

6) The many near divorces that we went through in the first year. Or two. Maybe three.

That's enough about the reasons we shouldn't have made it, but you can see that we take a bit of pride and amusement in the fact that we HAVE made it this far and we just keep getting happier.

It makes me wonder, does starting off un-happy make your happy potential actually higher? Did we do the right thing by setting our expectations so low? By getting married because neither of us could afford our rent alone, were we on the right track?

I don't think it's a recipe for happiness. I think we just make each other laugh and find each other very attractive, but I don't think it hurt that we have a mutual determination to show everyone how wrong they were about us not lasting. We like to win. We're winners. And our prize is being happier than either one of us could ever imagine. Chris said it best last night, "Amy, you're like the most amazing package of smokin hot AND a best friend who gets all of my jokes and movie lines." The fact that we both feel that way about each other makes it a pretty great life.